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Originally Posted by BPXR6T
What I'm struggling with is the level of impact on some victims for in some cases what I read was a once off event involving groping. From what I read not violent or aggressive but rather wandering hands, in one case 42yrs ago. Yeah, it's filthy and abhorrent but how did that one event psychologically damage someone to such an extent that it ruined a life. Or did that event become something to tack blame onto. Everyone processes things differently I guess. I guess I'm only standing on the outside looking in and don't fully comprehend how someone can't get past something even as ugly as this. The closest I've come to sexual abuse is on the odd occasion getting my nuts twisted in a rugby tackle. No comparison and I have no perspective. So I guess I have NFI. Stuff like this reminds me how lucky I've been to live the good life I have, and to be compassionate to those who have not been so lucky...
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As a victim of this sort of crime I sometimes have the same issue. Yes people deal with things differently and have different reactions/effects but there does seem to be some cause to question the severity of the reaction in relation to the severity of the crime. I suppose each case should be considered on its own merits.
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Originally Posted by supershifty
I've said enough on this forum about how I feel about paedophilia to justify how I personally feel about it. I'll reiterate for the ignorant one's who have not personally experienced it first hand - I seriously doubt many of you commenting have dealt with it.
Those poster's that have stated that 20 - 30 years is too long for someone to come out of the woodwork is too long and are only chasing coin, total ******* bullshit! It takes a lot of guts to accept what has been done to you as a child from people that you are supposed to trust - you feel ashamed for years later. You feel you've got no-one to turn to, you suffer in silence. It's something that you had no control over as you were a kid.
Take a walk in my shoes and see what you reckon. I was only interfered with once when I was 11yo, just after my Dad died. I feared for my life as a lad by these two *********.
Swear filter will probably kick in. I was forced to masturbate with a banana peel, take a ***** in my mouth, and be sodomised - all to the enjoyment of two "men" at 11yo.
Good on those girls for speaking out, and may those who are treated unjustly get justice - no matter what the distance in time. Filth like Rolf that prey on the innocent have no idea of the damage they do to a person.
Cheers!
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An excellent (and very emotive) response, completely understandable.
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Originally Posted by xtremerus
It is surprising the amount of abuse that happened years ago, and is still happening.
I sympathise with Supershifty, in that I was abused only for a brief time when I was about 9 yrs old, by a neighbour, but no sodomy, .
he interfered with my school friend at the time too.
It is a power thing that the older person has, that lets them get away with it.
At that tender age, you know that it is wrong what is happening, but you are to scared to say anything. I distinctly remember my Mum suspecting something, and asking me about it, and I denied anything happening. I still remember his name.
I have clear memory of the abuse, but I believe I don't have any long term damage from it.
I may only recall that abuse occasionally, when incidents like this are reported in the media.
It does not affect my life, just that it was a bad thing to happen to me.
I may have a different, positive outlook on life, and believe that you don't dwell on the past, and let it bog you down.
Otherwise it can just eat away at you, and end up stopping you from moving on.
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A good post, everyone responds to the ordeal differently and some have lasting debilitating effects and some don't. You have done yourself proud, well done.
As for those turning this thread into a discussion about conquests in the pub, please have some respect. There are 3 people here that are survivors of child sexual assault and I can guarantee there are a lot more that have read and commented on this thread that are but not open about it. The last thing they want to read is people being insensitive to a very emotive topic.