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Originally Posted by DFB FGXR6

At the end of the day, you must do what you fairly believe is right for you.

I have just finished listening to an audio book, the author is by no means a mental health professional but well versed in dealing with his own troubles. In one section, the author describes how he has always been very passive in dealing with the wants and needs of others, often at his own detriment. He explains how everyone, either consciously or unconsciously, is always looking out themselves, it’s a basic human survival trait. His realization was that it was about time he started thinking about what he wanted, not in a selfish way, but in a way that gives himself peace of mind and balance.

I tend to fall into this trait, saying yes to everyone and everything to follow the path of least resistance. “Can you work for me tomorrow, I have a function to attend”……….. “yes, that’s fine”………. Meanwhile I miss out on seeing my sister for her birthday…………….. and so on and so. In the process, I’m depriving myself of what suits me, what I want to do, what I want to achieve, an exhausting thought process that becomes a drain on a persons love for life.

It’s a hard stop this train of thought, to stop saying YES to everyone but yourself. I’m getting better at it as I get older, but I think there is merit in not being afraid to say no and in the process saying yes to yourself.

Some good points there mate. I can see this happening with me by being a bit of a whipping boy and not speaking up louder when I saw injustice happening. Never really thought I needed to stand up to people whom I thought had my back, in this case, family.