Relationship..When one is under age...

Clevo Princess · 11-08-2006, 09:30 PM

This is petty far off anything to do with cars but i needed to ask someone. Right now i am sitting at my bfs best mates house because they have taken off to the night clubs and i am only 16.He is 20 and works in the mines n i just think it was wrong for him to leave me here knowin i have nothin to do wen i left all my family and friends and moved six hrs away for him.

Any ideas on wat i should do wen he threatens to break up with me if i dnt let him go out with his mates often enough......

hppsc · 11-08-2006, 09:32 PM

You should leave him and be with someone who respects you.

Move to melbourne. There are plenty of nice guys here

Deadman · 11-08-2006, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by hppsc

You should leave him and be with someone who respects you.

That says it all.

**Falcon Coupe** · 11-08-2006, 09:34 PM

Are you his partner of his foster child ?
Plenty of older married people go out with friends and leave their respective partners at home, make some friends to hang out with while he goes to the pub.

brenx · 11-08-2006, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Falcon Coupe

Are you his partner of his foster child ?
Plenty of older married people go out with friends and leave their respective partners at home, make some friends to hang out with while he goes to the pub.

As above or your relationship won't last. I used to leave my Mrs behind all the time. My mrs also left me behind many times too. It's called "trust".

nb..My mrs and I have been together for 12 going on 13 years.

BENT_8 · 11-08-2006, 10:43 PM

I must say from personal experience, that it can be tough, hanging around older people.
I'ts even worse, when isolated in small town's.

Sometimes i find myself wondering what it would have been like to actually spend my teenage years with people my age, not having to keep a tight reign on my youthful enthusiasm for fear of looking like the "kid".
Doing adult stuff to avoid being left behind.
Drinking and smoking to look cool and feel a part of the group.

It makes you grow up too fast!
There's pleanty of time for intense relationships later.
Go home and enjoy your freedom, meet people your own age.
Be a teenager!
I can tell you, one day you will wake up and think "what am i doing here".

All the best
Steve

Grechie · 11-08-2006, 09:35 PM

i know i wouldnt leave my girl at home on a friday night ...

coonpanelvan · 11-08-2006, 09:38 PM

Dont try and make rules for him, for guys rules will always be broken

svo347 · 11-08-2006, 09:37 PM

He could have atleast found a few people for you to hang with instead of being alone..

fiery · 11-08-2006, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by svo347

He could have atleast found a few people for you to hang with instead of being alone..

What like a child minding thing...??

Come on.. if you are old enough to be living away from your family (I don't believe you are personally - 16 is way to young to be shacked up with a guy in his 20s), then you are old enough to make your own friends..

If you can't find friends around your own age there, then maybe that is telling you something about your situation....

Sorry to be blunt but if my teen son tried to leave home to live with someone older, and move so far away I would be just as blunt to him.

Aeron · 11-08-2006, 09:38 PM

You could come and live with me

MYLO_XR6 · 11-08-2006, 09:39 PM

if your GF is 16....what u supposed to do??? never go out and be stuck within 4 walls, theres nothing wrong with being away from eachother for 1 night a week! :S

Falcon Freak · 11-08-2006, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Clevo Princess

Any ideas on wat i should do wen he threatens to break up with me if i dnt let him go out with his mates often enough......

Ask him if he knows of Lorraine Bobbit. That'll mess with his mind.

FF

Clevo Princess · 11-08-2006, 09:47 PM

Its a little different when i have left all family and friends behind and now they all resent me for it....kinda hard to find someone to hang out with and he knows they dnt like me for it but doesnt care.i live in te middle of no where with another one of his mates n his gf who brings me into every fight they have becoz she thinks he is always lookn at me and my bf told me i am not allowed a say inanything he does.but theres just something about him that i cnt leave.how doi go about talkin to him?

MO · 11-08-2006, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Clevo Princess

Its a little different when i have left all family and friends behind and now they all resent me for it....kinda hard to find someone to hang out with and he knows they dnt like me for it but doesnt care.i live in te middle of no where with another one of his mates n his gf who brings me into every fight they have becoz she thinks he is always lookn at me and my bf told me i am not allowed a say inanything he does.but theres just something about him that i cnt leave.how doi go about talkin to him?

Back out NOW you will only be hurt more by hanging around....clevo your young you have your whole life in front of you.

Your family have not discarded you you have discarded them....eat humble pie go back to your family.....and then live your life from there.
Sorry girl but thats life you if you choose to follow this path you will regret it forever.

PM me if you want.

Kenster · 11-08-2006, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by MO

Back out NOW you will only be hurt more by hanging around....clevo your young you have your whole life in front of you.

Your family have not discarded you you have discarded them....eat humble pie go back to your family.....and then live your life from there.
Sorry girl but thats life you if you choose to follow this path you will regret it forever.

PM me if you want.

all i could say word!! on what you just said there

Clevo Princess · 11-08-2006, 09:52 PM

whose lorraine bobbit??....fiery i think life experiences people have had make a big impact on a persons life choices and the people i hang around.even my bf says im too mature to be hangng around ppl my age.he got me out of living with my mum becoz i was gettin into alot of trouble and my mum and me started fighting physically which also makes it hard

fiery · 11-08-2006, 10:05 PM

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whose lorraine bobbit??....fiery i think life experiences people have had make a big impact on a persons life choices and the people i hang around.even my bf says im too mature to be hangng around ppl my age.he got me out of living with my mum becoz i was gettin into alot of trouble and my mum and me started fighting physically which also makes it hard

If you want some serious advice, I will happily give it..

You have the rest of your life ahead of you.. If things were bad at home I am sure there were other options than moving away to an area you are unhappy with.

The key here is you are UNHAPPY... you can not tell someone what they can or can't do.. it will kill the relationship quick smart..

You are young.. you will find someone who will appreciate you and RESPECT you and that you will find a comfortable place where you will be happy if he goes out with mates, or stays home....

You may think you are really mature, but you have so much more to learn yet..

orsomxc · 11-08-2006, 09:55 PM

What is it with young people and not being able to use grammer and punctuation. Is it so hard?

Kenster · 11-08-2006, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by orsomxc

What is it with young people and not being able to use grammer and punctuation. Is it so hard?

I think its a new tranded that all people under age must mis-use punctuation and grammer

Clevo Princess · 11-08-2006, 09:57 PM

and with the rules thing coonpanelvan....i dnt like makin rules for him but wen he wnt listen to how i feel i dunt know wat to do.....any ideas??

Clevo Princess · 11-08-2006, 10:00 PM

Wat is it with old people and not being able to actually listen to whats goin on and only seeing wat they want to see.

fiery · 11-08-2006, 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Clevo Princess

Wat is it with old people and not being able to actually listen to whats goin on and only seeing wat they want to see.

Because we have made these sort of mistakes.. and if we could help just one person not to go through the pain and regret that we have, then that is great.

Good luck with everything...

hanky · 11-08-2006, 10:06 PM

By the sound of it you may be realising that it wasn't such a good idea leaving all your family and friends behind to be with your partner. Now when he's not there you have nobody to turn to, and he can't be there all the time. Hopefully you haven't burnt all your bridges. If you try to hold on to him 24/7 you'll just push him away.

orsomxc · 11-08-2006, 10:07 PM

MO seems to have a fair grasp on this situation. Knows what they are saying.

Mrs Coyote · 11-08-2006, 10:18 PM

Most towns even if small have some sort of sporting community. Join a sporting team make some friends that way. Maybe just maybe go to school or tafe if there is one and meet other people your own age. We have all made mistakes and have had to eat humble pie at some stage when you are ready to go home I am sure it will be better than you think. You probably would be better off in your own place as well; your boyfriend might be going out also to escape the other couple that you share with. Good luck with your decisions and they certainly are fairly big ones at 16. At 16 all I was interested in was weekend sport and going to watch the boys from school play footy.

pertuan · 11-08-2006, 10:18 PM

I agree with everything that fiery and MO have said.

MO · 11-08-2006, 10:18 PM

Guys..I had a pm notice from clevo...but nothing showed...I just hope that between us...she can come to a reasonable decision.

clevo most of us have been there done that......we know of what we speak...and please listen to fiery.

NC 5ltr · 11-08-2006, 10:31 PM

clevo your BF has every right to go out with his mates every so often.you cant expect him to hang around you 24/7 otherwise he'll be known as whipped by his mates.

knowing you were 16 and he was 20 i thought you could see this happening,anyway once you get to legal age you will be able to go out with him to the pub. ;)

clontarf_x · 11-08-2006, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Clevo Princess

Any ideas on wat i should do wen he threatens to break up with me if i dnt let him go out with his mates often enough......

Tell him to **** off and find someone who respects you...

What an *******