In need of guidance... What would you do?

[gtfpv]

Originally Posted by Woz

It concerns him in the sense that we are as close as we are, and it may affect a lot of things and people at certain times. Kind of hard to explain. That probably doesn't help anything at all. But it's something that people are going to slowly find out, as some already have. But the people I've told are people I trust. I don't have many friends, but I pick those I do very, very carefully. Trust is a big issue and those who know what's going on I know won't say anything.

GTFPV, if by sexual nature, you mean "am I gay" or something similar, that's not it.

It is, however, something that I'm starting to realise that I need certain people to know about. Ben's someone I'm eventually going to need to know. Firstly, because it's really hard to keep anything from him, as I said, trust is an issue and something I care very deeply about. And secondly, while not expecting people to be able to help or whatever, in any way, I think it'd help me to know that he knows and that I've still got him around to, I don't know, be a mate.

I'm thinking the best thing to do is to tell him I've got something to tell him once he's over his current hurdle. That being "out of hospital, back on his feet" mainly. I went in to see him tonight and he's actually a long way behind where he's supposed to be as far as physical state. So it didn't get a mention. But that's gonna be the way I do it. It's looking like he could end up back in a wheelchair for a while, possibly back in a rehab center again, so it'll have to be well and truly after that. If it's that bad.

I'll see how he is at the end of this week, I think. If he's starting to come good, I'll let him know that I've got something to tell him. After seeing how much he deteriorated from yesterday to today, now just isn't the right time. Once he turns it around and starts to climb uphill, I'll probably let him know.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate everyones response. It really is an amazing feeling to know just how many people, especially those you've never met and probably never will meet, will take the time even just to offer some positive comments.

Thanks a lot. Really.

to me that course of action sounds spot on . good onya.