What are the ladies after in a man???

Au2falcons · 26-11-2005, 05:37 PM

Ok, after being single for a year now I would like to get up to date with the times and find out just what the ladies are looking for in a man? Are looks the major factor?

Cheers

Adrian.

42.57lb · 26-11-2005, 05:47 PM

In my OPINION (please if you disagree with my OPINION, voice yours! BUUUUT if we don't want it to get nasty, dont be a jerk of and make personal attacks...) women are looking for

1) Good genetics (although they don't know it) that doesn't mean that you have to be good looking, but your genes have to complement theirs (not yours shoudl be acid wash if hers are dirty denin)
2) money (subconciously perhaps they are thinking that if you breed with them that you will be able to provide for your offspring)
3) you APPEAR more interested in them than yourself
4)you are willing to sacrifice your GT and have a safety bucket for babies fitted in the rear seat....

;)

AnthonyQLD · 26-11-2005, 07:27 PM

I dont think number 4 is going to happen :nutsycuck

Yummy Mummy · 26-11-2005, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by 42.57lb

In my OPINION (please if you disagree with my OPINION, voice yours! BUUUUT if we don't want it to get nasty, dont be a jerk of and make personal attacks...) women are looking for

1) Good genetics (although they don't know it) that doesn't mean that you have to be good looking, but your genes have to complement theirs (not yours shoudl be acid wash if hers are dirty denin)
2) money (subconciously perhaps they are thinking that if you breed with them that you will be able to provide for your offspring)
3) you APPEAR more interested in them than yourself
4)you are willing to sacrifice your GT and have a safety bucket for babies fitted in the rear seat....

;)

1) I don't look at a man and consciously wonder what my children will look like. Looks don't matter, although as with both males and females, you will always notice a good looking person before a fugly one. A nice smile and kind personality will win out over looks every time.
2) I am a single mum, supporting a son on my own without any assistance from his dad. I have gone out with guys earning $30k per year and over $100k per year, it makes no difference. I just make sure I am the one in the financial position to raise him.
3) True, I agree with this one, although there is nothing wrong with a woman making her man feel like a god either.
4) Goes without saying really!

To be honest, as long as a guy has a kind heart, is willing to put in the time to the relationship, and doesn't come and go just when he's horny, or ignore you, then he has my vote.

42.57lb · 26-11-2005, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

1) I don't look at a man and consciously wonder what my children will look like. Looks don't matter, although as with both males and females, you will always notice a good looking person before a fugly one. A nice smile and kind personality will win out over looks every time.
2) I am a single mum, supporting a son on my own without any assistance from his dad. I have gone out with guys earning $30k per year and over $100k per year, it makes no difference. I just make sure I am the one in the financial position to raise him.

1) Yeah, I know what you mean, BUT seriously I saw a documentry on the ABC about the human body once, when I said complementry genes I meant it on a fully subconcious level, ie: a person you are attracted to physically probably has complementry genes to you, this is programed into. That's why one person can go "WOW the bloke/chick is HOT" and the person sitting next to them goes "ARE YOU KIDDING???... well if that's your bag then go for it...."

2) Perhaps it was inaccurate of me to put a reference to finance in here. Sorry to hear that you get no supprt from the father of your kid, that's a shame because jerks like that give the rest of us a bad name. But answer this: would you intentionally have a child with someone whom you did not think had the capacity to provide not necessarily for yourself but the child at least?

Steve · 26-11-2005, 07:47 PM

Like the song says: "Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money..."

Yummy Mummy · 26-11-2005, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by 42.57lb

1) 2) Perhaps it was inaccurate of me to put a reference to finance in here. Sorry to hear that you get no supprt from the father of your kid, that's a shame because jerks like that give the rest of us a bad name. But answer this: would you intentionally have a child with someone whom you did not think had the capacity to provide not necessarily for yourself but the child at least?

Love is not bound by financial stability. There are people on this earth who struggle to make ends meet, and others who live in million dollar properties, and all have loving partners. If I loved a man, it wouldn't matter to me if he could provide for us at all. I don't think it matters what your income is, you seem to get by, just maybe with a bit less. I suppose it is easy for me to say that, as I earn an extremely good salary, and know that I could support a family on what I earn.

The cuddle when you walk in the door at night, and being asked how your day was by someone who really cares is worth more than money.

vztrt · 26-11-2005, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by 42.57lb

1) Yeah, I know what you mean, BUT seriously I saw a documentry on the ABC about the human body once, when I said complementry genes I meant it on a fully subconcious level, ie: a person you are attracted to physically probably has complementry genes to you, this is programed into. That's why one person can go "WOW the bloke/chick is HOT" and the person sitting next to them goes "ARE YOU KIDDING???... well if that's your bag then go for it...."

2) Perhaps it was inaccurate of me to put a reference to finance in here. Sorry to hear that you get no supprt from the father of your kid, that's a shame because jerks like that give the rest of us a bad name. But answer this: would you intentionally have a child with someone whom you did not think had the capacity to provide not necessarily for yourself but the child at least?

I saw that doco too, I'll back you up on your claims. These are traits by women that were developed back in the neanderthaul(i know its spelt wrong) man days.

Steve · 26-11-2005, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

Love is not bound by financial stability. There are people on this earth who struggle to make ends meet, and others who live in million dollar properties, and all have loving partners. If I loved a man, it wouldn't matter to me if he could provide for us at all. I don't think it matters what your income is, you seem to get by, just maybe with a bit less. I suppose it is easy for me to say that, as I earn an extremely good salary, and know that I could support a family on what I earn.

The cuddle when you walk in the door at night, and being asked how your day was by someone who really cares is worth more than money.

Perhaps that's not where the question was originally coming from, your posts seem to be more about actually being in a relationship. The way I read the question, it's asking what initially attracts a woman to a man. To that end I think if you do nothing else, be confident, happy and pay attention to any woman you're interested in.

Yummy Mummy · 26-11-2005, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Steve

To that end I think if you do nothing else, be confident, happy and pay attention to any woman you're interested in.

Even a woman couldn't have said it any better. :voldar02:

42.57lb · 26-11-2005, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

Love is not bound by financial stability. There are people on this earth who struggle to make ends meet, and others who live in million dollar properties, and all have loving partners. If I loved a man, it wouldn't matter to me if he could provide for us at all. I don't think it matters what your income is, you seem to get by, just maybe with a bit less. I suppose it is easy for me to say that, as I earn an extremely good salary, and know that I could support a family on what I earn.

The cuddle when you walk in the door at night, and being asked how your day was by someone who really cares is worth more than money.

Mummy, I agree with you entirely that it's got little to do with money, that schwweet, we're on the same page for sure. Now, would you sit down with someone and go: I want a baby, know that if you couldn't and he couldn't provide for it. Would you expect handouts? Or would you go right, WE need to be able to provide for a child if we have one. Now don't misunderstand, I'm not talking about keeping a baby that came from an accidental pregnancy or anything like that, what I'm saying is Women (if they are so inclined) are MORE attracted to men who are able to provide them with stability (FINANCIAL or OTHERWISE ((I'm not shouting, just trying to emphsize the important bits)) as you said the kiss/hug/whatever whe nyou come home is more important. I think we're actually agreeing about this point).

To illustrate, I belive that women are more attracted to someone who is reliable, on this fundamental level. Forget money etc.

What do you think?

Steve · 26-11-2005, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

Even a woman couldn't have said it any better. :voldar02:

:newangel:

joshf2 · 26-11-2005, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

The cuddle when you walk in the door at night, and being asked how your day was by someone who really cares is worth more than money.

yeah, i miss that... :(

Yummy Mummy · 26-11-2005, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by 42.57lb

Mummy, I agree with you entirely that it's got little to do with money, that schwweet, we're on the same page for sure. Now, would you sit down with someone and go: I want a baby, know that if you couldn't and he couldn't provide for it. Would you expect handouts? Or would you go right, WE need to be able to provide for a child if we have one. Now don't misunderstand, I'm not talking about keeping a baby that came from an accidental pregnancy or anything like that, what I'm saying is Women (if they are so inclined) are MORE attracted to men who are able to provide them with stability (FINANCIAL or OTHERWISE ((I'm not shouting, just trying to emphsize the important bits)) as you said the kiss/hug/whatever whe nyou come home is more important. I think we're actually agreeing about this point).

To illustrate, I belive that women are more attracted to someone who is reliable, on this fundamental level. Forget money etc.

What do you think?

God, I'm not even going to make a sweeping generalisation on that one!

I think it's up to the individual couple. Truth of the matter is, when you first see someone or meet someone you're attracted to, you very rarely know how much they earn until you start having a relationship with them, so money doesn't matter in that respect.

In terms of whether I would procreate with someone if I wasn't in a position to afford the child? I don't think I would, but I wouldn't dump the guy just cos we couldn't have a baby. It's up the couple, and I believe in the couples right to choose.

Rodp · 26-11-2005, 08:59 PM

Meh. Stay single is so much more fun.

parawolf · 26-11-2005, 09:21 PM

I reckon that females like to be taught something new about themselves that they either didn't understand or didn't know.

On the funny side, I reckon females need someone stable to get them through their inherent instability....

*dons flame retardant suit*

Yummy Mummy · 26-11-2005, 09:23 PM

Don't worry about the flame retardant suit.

Women just want no less than 6 inches.

cogdoc · 26-11-2005, 09:28 PM

Well mate, if you figure it out, let the rest of us know.

Gammaboy · 26-11-2005, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by vztrt

back in the neanderthaul(i know its spelt wrong) man days.

What? AFL season? :P

Penelope Pitstop · 26-11-2005, 11:27 PM

What a woman is attracted to is easy to answer – well I think it is…

Looks are not the most important thing for us ladies - although if you are a stallion it doesn’t hurt, but most women will look beyond that.

No lies, excuses or immature crap - this is a big one - so many men are just so full of manure.
Respect for yourself and respect for her.
Passion in yourself, because confidence is attractive and passion for her – be interested in who she is and what her aspirations are and appreciate what makes her unique.
Listen – so many men don’t listen and talk to her. Women love to talk.
Fun – everybody loves to have fun and if you can make a women laugh relax and enjoy herself your half way there.

opps and also be genuine – probably the most important thing really.

The money thing is crap, my ex is extraordinarily wealthy and at the end of the day it means nothing… I would rather live in a caravan with the right man then in a mansion with the wrong man. And also not all women are breeders, not all women are looking for someone to father their future offspring it wouldn’t even cross mine or my girlfriends minds initially… some of us would probably never think that far ahead.

Live in the moment – Tomorrow will sort itself out when it gets here – just be yourself and make the most of your life – enjoy every day and the right person will show up when you least expect it.

gtfpv · 26-11-2005, 11:34 PM

interesting topic . this may relate in some wierd way . when i was younger i used to pick up all the time when i had a beard or a 2 week growth . mostly older women . i actually got dumped by a girl friend when i shaved it off. she was 25 me 20 . anyhow . my wife knows none of this . but i have a beard now . my wife bought me a new razor for me to shave . she hates it when i have a beard. she accused me of getting it elsewhere a few days ago .everytime i have grown a beard she has accused me if this in some way or another . the funny thing though is . when we met i had a 2 week growth, and wasn't out to pick up .
so i think subconsciously women look for strength , attitude and confidence. then for some reason , they want you to be subtle kind and new age . and they get insecure when the beast looks come back .

XR_Strider_GuY · 27-11-2005, 07:54 PM

Ok here's my 2c to this discussion.

Surely asking criteria's on what women look for will yeld as many different opinions as a group of countries in a UN summit about teh 3rd world debt. At the end of the day everyone is different and everyone will have different expectations.

I mean true, in general women want a man thats mature, intelligent, gentleman like, assertive, a good listener, attractive etc etc, but am I right in saying that what one women will think might not be the case for another.

Oh for the record i'm single, anyone want interested in a 25 year old guy, drives an XR6. LOL

Gilesie · 27-11-2005, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Yummy Mummy

Don't worry about the flame retardant suit.

Women just want no less than 6 inches.

Does this mean that a man is only as good as his physical dimentions?

Penelope Pitstop · 27-11-2005, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by XR_Strider_GuY

Ok here's my 2c to this discussion.

Surely asking criteria's on what women look for will yeld as many different opinions as a group of countries in a UN summit about teh 3rd world debt. At the end of the day everyone is different and everyone will have different expectations.

I mean true, in general women want a man thats mature, intelligent, gentleman like, assertive, a good listener, attractive etc etc, but am I right in saying that what one women will think might not be the case for another.

Oh for the record i'm single, anyone want interested in a 25 year old guy, drives an XR6. LOL

Women talk and discuss EVERYTHING so I do feel like I have a pretty good idea of what most women want. But yeah you are right all women want and look for different things in a potential mate... but at the end of the day all women want someone who is going to treat them respectfully and be genuine and nice to them.

I am single at the moment and have run into my fair share of freaks, so I thought it couldn’t hurt to refresh the basics as it seems that a lot of fellas out there are absolutely clueless.

Penelope Pitstop · 27-11-2005, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Gilesie

Does this mean that a man is only as good as his physical dimentions?

Yes, Yes it does

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CruizinEB · 27-11-2005, 08:35 PM

needs Heeps of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

phoon · 27-11-2005, 09:13 PM

I have been with the same woman for over 28 years, so I may be a little bit out of touch on this subject, but here goes anyway, communication is the key to everything. Dont lie, dont cheat, make her, above all others, your best mate as well as your lover and if its only one thing alone that you have in common, at least you will have communication. I personally cant think of anyone else that I would rather spend time with than my darling other half. Now for you younger blokes, this may sound stupid, but for what its worth, thats my advice.

Laminge · 27-11-2005, 09:30 PM

I dare say you have to have an excellent understanding of tea pots and their uses!

phoon · 27-11-2005, 09:33 PM

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I dare say you have to have an excellent understanding of tea pots and their uses!

If its tea pots you have in common, then thats fine, but the way this forum is going, maybe the name should be changed from Ford Forums to Tea Pot forums cause they seem to be making there way into every thread.

XR_Strider_GuY · 27-11-2005, 10:10 PM

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I am single at the moment and have run into my fair share of freaks, so I thought it couldn’t hurt to refresh the basics as it seems that a lot of fellas out there are absolutely clueless.

Ok I have a question, a guy thats into cars do you rate that as a plus, neutral or uncool thing for a guy. I don't mean talk about cars ever 2nd word, that is very very naff. I mean in the genuine car enthusiast way in the sense that having a nice car is part of his life?